30 days has September...

… and none to waste.

As busy as it was last week, it ended in a very good note. The (becoming) traditional bi-weekly blogmeet took place in a fancy restaurant in TJ; as usual Maria, Will and us were there and we had a great time, with great food and drinks. All of us were tired, but enjoyed so much that we stayed until half past midnight. Great conversations and great times!

On Saturday, Bonita and I woke up early to attend a work related event in Real del Mar; I met a lot of people I had not seen for a while and had conversations with most of them work-related, nothing really important. Had breakfast and lunch in a couple of “healthy” places; it was OK.

On Sunday, we went across the border to do a number of pending issues, like returning the “infamous” luggage carrier that opened during the vacation and to buy the replacement bar stools for the remodeled kitchen; in any case, there were we, both of us having breakfast at Achiote (which is owned by the same people as La Espadaña) when things started to go awry.

It had happened last Wednesday that we attended our monthly couples counseling session. This time we were talking about parenting and the counselor gave us homework. Related to the values we lived our lives (as individuals) when we were in the 20~25 years old and the values we have now.

Bonita hit the ground running and immediately started working on hers. I, as usual, dragged my feet, since this kind of activity has some ill effects on me. I do not like to do them. I try to delay this as much as I can. So, when on Sunday, Bonita started asking me questions about my values then and now, and started (what I felt like) pushing me to answer, I did not take that on stride. I resented the whole thing, and when we were having breakfast I snapped at her and made a comment about how she is the worst (insert adjective here) who does not do (insert activity here) for me. Out of the blue for her, I knew and later mentioned that the reason for me to do that was “revenge” because I felt pushed by her and did not want to complete the conversation.

She was hurt; I think she is still hurt. I apologized, several times already. But she is still behaving coldly with me.

Anyway, after feeling like sh1t yesterday after breakfast (I could not finish it, my mouth went sour after the discussion), I decided to try to tackle the “values” thing, at least the part when I was young(er).

So, with a small explanation for each one, here they are:

1) Independence: I lived with my parents until I was 17, after that I moved to Guadalajara, with my aunt and uncle until I was 22. The parenting style was so different that I felt trapped with them. They are really nice people, but when I was that age, I did not want my parents (least my relatives!) to be hovering over me and whatever I did! I could not “misbehave” at all: not drinking, smoking, spending the night away from home. So, basically it was no fun at all. So, I took advantage that my brother Tobal moved to Guadalajara to attend college and we moved out my relatives’ house.
2) Individuality: I loved and love my family (parents, siblings, etc.) But after a long time, I started taking vacation without them. I did a lot of things on my own those days. Like getting in a café to read the paper and not to worry about anything at all. I think I should call this differently, because what I lived then was the sensation that I had no responsibility over nobody but myself. And I enjoyed that a lot. In the same theme, I was trying to complete my identity, keeping away from the majority, whatever that meant.
3) Friends and family relationships: I like(d) to be around friends, and at the time, I developed a sense of comfort being around my family too.
4) Honesty: I disliked, and still do, people that lied. More so when they lie to take advantage of me. Only remember one case, but still stings.

There are some other values I lived at the time: Responsibility, Intellectual Status, Cooperation come to mind… in any case; the four I listed were the most important to me at the time.

I have to get to list the values I have now… tough task.

See you around.